Don't kill the bird!

While playing ball out back with my husband he told me a tip about batting. "hold the bat lose, like a bird that you don't want to get away but that you don't want to kill." As we both took turns trying this he said "wow, its amazing that when you don't try to hard it works so much better,just like Golf". Right when he said that a light bulb went off in my head,(or maybe i got hit with a ball, who knows). What was my great epiphany? That tip does not just work for batting a ball or swinging a club it works for life. When people are out in the dating world you can always tell the ones that want a relationship lil' too much.They are "killing the bird" instead of holding it and seeing what unfolds. They seem almost desperate and that is a turn off to most of the opposite sex. Even in the job field there is a fine line in letting a potential employer know you want the job and sobbing at their feet about your bills. There seems to be an odd thing about us humans that we like a bit of a chase, a hunt if you will. we don't always want everything put right in our lab. we seem to put more value on things that were harder to obtain. Now there are a few things were i would say you should go all the way in something, like Med school for instance. I don't really want a doctor to say, "I kinda think your problem is in your inner ear, but it might be in your brain. I'm not to sure cuz i didn't want to try to hard in class." That would be bad. But again there is a flip side, I don't want a Doctor that is distracted at work because his wife is leaving him because he made his work an idol. We have a saying here in our home and that is, "find yourself in the middle". Work hard, play hard, love well and keep your focus on the right path, but don't "kill the bird".