Hi. Not even sure who i am saying hi to. Doubt anyone will ever read this and i guess that's OK. I have reached a point in my life where i want to try something new so here i go.
I hate writing. Always have. As a 30 year old severely dyslexic mother of three i have no idea why i would want to venture into yet another time consuming endeavor, however I feel this might be a creative way for me to rant, vent and "get my words out" when i need to. People have told me this is therapeutic, we shall see. So far it just seems like rambling. I like rambling,(when I'm the one doing it) so i think i will go with that.
I know that i am going to mess my kids up in some ways. I pray daily that i do as little damage as possible. I say this to clue you in that i know i am not a perfect parent. That being said i will now share what is on my mind. i wish parents would stop caring if their kids liked them and started parenting again. i see so many kids running wild, begging with their actions to be loved. to be loved means to give boundaries and stick to them. Kids need to fail. They need to feel pain. Life has pain,heartbreak, and problems. If we fix everything for the next generation when they are kids then how will they know how to deal with anything as adults? My generation is already a great example of this. I still know 30 somethings that get bailed out by mom and dad. I have no clue what i am doing when it comes to my kids. I am the one that has the crazy kids running around the school, church, where ever driving everyone nuts. My point is that i am not and will not be afraid to step up to them and make them feel that their actions have consequences, both good and bad. I am going into this child rearing thing with my eyes wide open. I know i will here "its not fair", "i hate you" and "all the other kids..." 1000 times in the next 15 years but it will be worth it when they are productive members of this planet.
You might not be perfect, in fact none of us are, but you have a few good tools and those are common sense, you keep your eyes open and are not self-indulgent. There is one thing you shouldn't miss, every child is different and sometimes the message will have to be delivered in different ways if it is to reach the desired effect on the person we want to guide. Just keep going because you are in the right path. Love, Arantxa.
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